19 Jul 5 Lessons Serena Williams is Teaching Us On And Off The Court
Serena Williams is a dynamic force on the field but she is even more of a rockstar Mom! Over the weekend after her loss to Angelique Kerber of Germany for the Wimbledon finals, Serena dedicated her game to all Moms saying “ For all the moms out there, I was playing for you today and I tried! Her statement inspired all mothers tuning in and at that moment it felt as if Serena was the real winner of that match. Here are 5 ways Serena Williams is giving us life lessons, on and off the court.
1. Be Your Own Advocate. – We all know how unpredictable pregnancy can be. In Serena’s case, she carried with hardly any problems to full term. However, once she started having contractions, Alexis Olympia’s heart rate dropped and an emergency c-section was scheduled. At the moment, Mom and daughter were ok, but it was after that Serena started having issues. Shortness of breath was the first indication that something was wrong. Because of her history of blood clots, Serena knew exactly what was going on and told her nurse that she needed a CT scan and heparin drip (a blood thinner) right away. Instead of listening, the nurse thought that maybe Serena’s pain medication was making her confused. After insisting, her medical team finally sent her in for a CT scan and realized that her prediction was right and she was immediately put on blood thinners. By being her own advocate she saved her own life. Our advocacy is not always going to be for life and death situations but we have to make sure that the same way we go hard advocating for our kids is the same way we take care of ourselves. Whether it has to do with our health, career, happiness or mental well being, in the end, you will always benefit.
2. Find your way back to your passions. – In Motherhood sometimes, you decide that it’s time to take a break from everything else and just focus on the kids. Whether you are a new Mom or a Mom with tweens, there are certain times in our children’s lives when they just need our full attention. It’s always OK to take a break. However, it’s also important to find your way back to your passions. As Mothers, our lives can easily get tangled up in our kids’ lives, so much so that we begin to believe that their happiness is our happiness. In interviews, Serena says that she has always wanted to be a Mom, and we see that she had to come off the court for a while but she made up her mind to come back. Even at a young age, she wants to be a role model for Alexis Olympia and show her how strong Mommy can be.
3. Set your intentions high! – Whenever Serena is about to serve, she raises her ball and racket high, sets that killer glare, and then spikes! A technique that has served her well throughout her career. With 23 grand slams under her belt, she is aiming to beat the record of 24 and go for the golden number of 25. In her January interview with Vogue, She is quoted as saying “I think sometimes women limit themselves. I’m not sure why we think that way, but I know that we’re sometimes taught to not dream as big as men, not to believe we can be a president or a CEO, when in the same household, a male child is told he can be anything he wants. I’m so glad I had a daughter. I want to teach her that there are no limits.” Like Serena, we shouldn’t put any limits on ourselves, but set our goals high and believe that we CAN and WILL reach them. There’s nothing holding you back but fear itself. Get rid of it with a good ol’ backhand!
4. Live out your dreams, but not through your children. – In the same interview with Vogue, Serena also shares how she wants Alexis Olympia to have her own life and experience her own things. Sometimes, as a parent, you feel that you may have missed out on opportunities and so you try to relive them through your children. That may work out if you and your children share the same interests, but the downfall comes when you don’t. Instead of creating a love for it, you may actually be causing your child anxiety. This behavior is not only unfair towards your child but towards you as well. You deserve to be happy and proud of your accomplishments, and in return, your child will be too.
5. It’s not always about winning. – In her post-game interview, Serena said: “For all the Moms out there, I was playing for you today, and I tried.” The keyword there is TRIED! Every day, in whatever task you put your mind to, no matter the obstacles that may arise, go ahead and give it your best shot! Some days you’ll feel like a boss, having the most productive day and checking everything off your checklist. While another day, even after giving it your all, everything is just off and not one thing got checked off that list. You know what? That’s OK. We have to give ourselves room to know that, just like pregnancy, Mommyhood could be very unpredictable. But the most important thing you can do is try and for that, you can never be mad.