09 Jan The Busy Mom’s Guide to Keeping This Year’s Resolutions
So I’m writing this as I’ve finally got my 2-year-old son to bed and my 8 month old daughter positions herself between me and the couch, one down, one to go. If I’m lucky she’ll be asleep by midnight.
We are a week into the new year and if I know creatures of habit you are trying to stay motivated about your resolutions you came up with on January 1st. You’ve probably signed up for a vision board workshop or picked up a new health or financial challenge. All those things are great but before you start, I just have one thing to say – STOP!
According to Psychology Today it is estimated that less than 10% of New Year’s resolutions are actually achieved. At almost 35 (#35andthriving, that’s another post), I’ve never done well with resolutions. In the beginning, I’m excited about them, but somewhere in the middle of the year…I just fall off. I make the resolution but because of the busyness of life I get sidetracked. A few weeks pass by and I find myself slowly going back to my old ways feeling bad and resolving next year would be better.
Now that I’m a mother of two, I still want to make resolutions. But if I couldn’t keep them before, how the heck can I keep them now?! I mean 2017 was just a couple of days ago! It’s a new year, but I’m still me. And now “me” includes two little ones who don’t care about my resolutions. So what’s my answer?
I’m throwing away the giant list and taking it one task/one goal, one day at a time. It’s ok to make resolutions but they have to be realistic according to your life. At this stage of motherhood with a toddler and a baby, it will be unrealistic for me to say that I want to write 3 posts a day. ( You are lucky to be reading this one today) However, 3 posts a week is more attainable and allows me to break up my time to achieve my goal.
Below are 5 ways for you to keep the resolutions you have set out for 2018…even though you are a busy Mom.
1. Write it down! – In Habbakuk 2:2, the Bible talks about writing the vision and making it plain. That piece advice is beneficial for the stay at home Mom or the career Mom. Writing down our plans, allows us to think it through and really comprehend what we are striving for.
2. Be realistic with your time-After you have written down your goals, set real plans on how you can make them happen. As a mother, you know that time seems to just fly by and that list you made for yourself may just have one thing crossed off. Instead of beating yourself up, give your self a pat on the back for achieving that one thing. And if you notice that you are keeping up with that pattern, maybe your list should be cut down. If you have a long-term goal break it down into manageable bites and work on 1 item a day. By the time 2018 ends you would’ve crossed 365 items of your list!
3. Be patient with yourself– We can be the most patient people with our children but when it comes to ourselves, it’s a different story. Give yourself room to mess up and even not do anything on that list of yours. Listen, being a Mom is a full-time job and on some days you will need a break. Go ahead and take it. tomorrow is a new day.
4. Find a Mommunity– It’s so important to have a support system built with people who can truly understand you and your lifestyle. Bounce your ideas/ goals of your spouse, family friends or even a group that shares your interest. By doing so you will be held accountable not only to yourself but to those who care for you and want to see you succeed.
5. Be happy– it’s so important that the goals you make today will make you happy in the future. We do all that we can to make sure and bring a smile to our kids faces but how much happier will they be to see you smiling in return. Set goals that will allow your spirit to soar.
Just because you are a Mom doesn’t mean that you should let go of your dreams. So lets set ourselves up for success. This year resolve to setting up accomplishable goals. Take it one task, one day at a time. It’s a new year and time for a new way of thinking.